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In a world where many believe “bigger is better” in relation to all sorts of things, it’s no surprise that the penis finds itself positioned within that same context. Often, men and women alike think size is synonymous with sexual function and performance. We’ve all heard someone brag about how well endowed they are, as to imply that a big penis is the foremost quality of being a good sexual partner. On the other hand many not-so-well endowed men create complexes for themselves that sometimes affect their self-esteem and their relationships. And while it is the case that some women prefer an above average package, the truth of the matter is size is not a guarantor of sexual pleasure.
Is Bigger Always Better?
Simply put, No. As previously stated, just because you have a large penis, doesn’t mean you know how to use it properly. There is some truth to the adage “It’s not the size of the ship but the motion in the ocean.” If a man does not know how to please a woman, his having a “big one” is of no consequence. But, being in tune with a woman’s body is the key to pleasing her.
Whether you are having rough freaky sex or passionate lovemaking – handle her with care. Don’t just ram “it” in the vagina like you’re trying to stuff a pipe into a keyhole. Yes the vagina is capable of expanding, but make sure it is fully lubricated (preferably with her own fluids) and ready to go. Don’t be so overly ambitious about getting the goods that you rush in. This can ruin the experience for both of you.
Also, women find that a big penis can sometimes be more of a curse than a gift. If it’s too big it can be uncomfortable or even painful (not in a good way), especially when going extremely deep and hard. Usually when engaging with a partner who is packin,’ women prefer slower and gentler thrusts that in turn work their way up to more faster and deeper pushes.
Don’t get me wrong; a woman can really enjoy a large penis. The positive thing about well-endowed men is the ‘full’ feeling we get when he is inside the vagina. The other good thing is the ability for him to take longer strokes, especially during sexual positions where he is on the side or behind the woman i.e. doggystlye, the plough, sensual spoon etc.
The bottom line is, don’t rely on just your size to the job done.
What if You’re Lackin’ and not Packin’?
So, for the brothers who come up a little short, don’t get discouraged. A smaller penis doesn’t necessarily mean a bad sexual experience. Keep in mind that for many women, pleasure starts before the pants come of. Sound, touch, smell and taste are all things that create arousal. Once you have aroused the woman find ways to please her. Full body sensual rubs, clitoris stimulation (touch, sucking and licking), and breast play are all very important.
Some men who have smaller penises make the mistake of trying to overcompensate as if they have something to prove. This creates a lack of focus on the woman’s needs, which can be a disaster, and you will end up doing her and yourself a disservice. Focus on proper positioning and stroke skills. Positions that are better for smaller penises are missionary, the padlock, the butterfly, the clip and others. These positions allow you to control your placing and stimulate the clitoris at the same time, which in turn is essential for optimal pleasure.
Things You Should Know Regardless of Your Size
Whether you are as small as a silkworm or hung like a horse, here are some things to keep in mind:
There you have it. No matter how you measure up, work with what you have, and have fun doing it!