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I watch BET for two reasons: 1. The Game and 2. Being Mary Jane. This says more about my love for the creator of both shows Mara Akil than anything.
Being Mary Jane follows the protagonist Mary Jane in the city of Atlanta – a professional successful black woman who seems to have it all. Here’s why I love Mary Jane – because even though she has the car, the clothes, and the career; Mary Jane – in her personal life – does not seem to have the capacity to make good decisions. She can’t! She just cannot seem to make a good decision. Anyway, let’s get into this recap and you can judge for yourself.
The title of this episode was “Mixed Messages.” Girl … you don’t even know how true this was. We were getting mixed messages all up and through this episode. The show opens with Mary Jane and her friends at the club and she sends Andre a text message asking if they’re hooking up tonight. He replies that he is “stuck at home.” We see him on a couch cuddled up with his kids watching a movie. His wife is also in the room and sees him reading the text and what does she say? What does she say? “Do you have to go?”
Now we know that she knows he’s texting Mary Jane and I wish my boyfriend would read a text from a side chick in front of me. WHOOOO Jesus. Girl, I would have put those kids to bed and went in on him. How disrespectful. If you’re going to be that rude why stay in the home? If you know that he’s cheating and has no plans to stop, why let him stay in the home? Anyway, that’s grown folk’s business. Moving on.
After the club Mary Jane and Kara are hanging out on Mary Jane’s couch. Kara is checking her online dating profiles and when Mary Jane isn’t looking she starts talking to a guy as Mary Jane. Later when she’s in bed, the guy starts chatting with her and since Andre isn’t looking like he’s coming over, she chats back.
The next morning, we see Andre wake up in the guest bedroom, make the bed then climb into his marital bed with Avery. I don’t know why he’s doing it. Is it for Avery or
the kids? Whatever. Then something happens. I had to re-watch this scene like … I don’t know how many times because I didn’t think it happened. The fact that it was written lets me know that some woman out there did this and if you’re that woman and you happen to be reading this – this is not OK! EVER!
Avery rolls over and you think “oh yes, she’s fighting for her marriage, she’s going to give him some.” But she goes under the covers and you think “oh she means this.”
Then you’re thinking goes south because she puts a pillow on Andre’s lap. And when he complains she says “my neck hurts.” Avery. Stop. STOP. STOP. Just – girl … stop. It’s ok to admit that you’re not about this life.
At work, Mary Jane lets Kara know that she didn’t appreciate Kara’s little online joke; but fails to give Kara any details on if she’s going out with the guy. Also? She outs her friend Mark sexual preference. It was a mistake but Kara freaked out. I couldn’t help but laugh because that is exactly the way I react when someone has poured me a cup of steaming hot tea. You know the kind that burns your tongue but you drink it anyway because it’s so good and so cold outside? You don’t? Get better gossip partners.
That night, Mary Jane and Andre are in bed watching TV when he lets it slip that Avery tried to give him top with a pillow in his lap and Mary Jane doesn’t understand why she would try to do that. I would like to point out here to my friend MJ that – how do I say this? He’s married! Of course his wife who still wants him is going to try and have sex with him (it was a major fail but hey …). Mary Jane tells Andre that since they’re sharing she wants him to know that she’s dating other men.
She goes on a date with the man she met online. It’s Wayne Brady y’all. ION like Wayne Brady; there’s something about his “comedy” that isn’t … funny, good, and has too much Wayne Brady in it. He’s the ultimate cornball. But he’s only here playing a character. The date doesn’t go well because Mary Jane’s phone keeps blowing up with text messages from her niece, Mark (who knows that she told Kara he’s gay), and Kara. So he leaves her at the restaurant to take care of all that she has going on.
Mary Jane is the guest speaker at a lunch event and who is sitting at her table but Avery? I love when these two meet. It’s always a war of words. Avery decides that now is the time to announce to the table that her husband is having an affair, and then she turns to Mary Jane and asks her what she would do in the same situation.
What does Mary Jane say? She says that she would step up her “sex game” because the number two reason that men cheat is sex, and the number one is that they just don’t love their wives anymore. GIRL… The boldness. In all this commotion and confrontation, Mary Jane is called to the podium to give her speech, but when she gets there she’s left her speech at the table and decides she’s going to give an improvised speech on being “number two.” Oh the irony.
I’m not even going to paraphrase it. You go ahead and read what she said below:
“You know I had this great little sisterhood speech all prepared, but I seem to have left it in my purse at the table. I don’t want to talk about sisterhood, today.
I know there’s a lot of professional women here, but I want to speak to the younger girls. You guys signed up for this mentorship program because you want to be successful. You want to be your mentors! You know everybody tells you: ‘Do your best so you can be number one!-But there’s another position…
You know I’ve found that being number two (glances over at Avery) gives you all the glory of being at the top without all the pressures of the number one spot. See, the job of any great number two is to figure what the number one is missing, what they refused to see and what they are doing wrong.
So, you know take your time, learn, be patient, get better. You will get to where you’re supposed to be if you do the work. Because remember, if you don’t somebody else will. I’m Mary Jane Paul and thank you for listening.”
So after that – what was that? It wasn’t a read, it was – well it was a mess to be honest. We see Avery and Andre in a marriage counselor’s office. The counselor asks Andre why they’re there since he doesn’t even seem to want to be there. Avery says that she wants her marriage to work because she’s invested so much into Andre that she can’t lose him.
Andre points out that he’s invested things into the marriage too, but most importantly Mary Jane sees him. Mary Jane sees who he is today, and Avery doesn’t. What I want to know is when did the point of staying together become less love and more IRA. Avery, if you divorce this man, the IRS won’t tax you. There is no risk of losing more than you’ve already lost. Your dignity, your pride, your respect. All of them are already gone, and that pillow did not help the situation! Let him go. You are rich and so beautiful, you will find someone. Let him go.
Mary Jane arrives home to find Andre standing outside her house and he tells her that he’s filed for divorce. His marriage is over. I don’t know about y’all, but I need receipts. I’m going to need to see the papers that you filed. I know the court house charged you to file those papers, have your lawyer email me a copy of that receipt. But this is Mary Jane. Bad decision maker, and she goes ahead and kisses him.
I didn’t see any previews for next week, but I’m sure Avery isn’t just going to sit still and let this happen. There’s going to be more and I await the messiness with baited breath. See you next episode!